After your free taster, a short quiz asks what you most want to look at. From then on, your questions point that way.
Each of these is a way into the same thing: understanding what you feel and what sets it off. Whichever you start with, the same four steps help: Notice, Settle, Reframe and Act. Read about The Four Whispers.
Most people already know, somewhere. If you don't, read the eight below and notice which one you feel slightly reluctant to pick. That's usually the one.
You're asking what you're doing with your days and whether it adds up to anything. Sunday evenings feel heavier than they should, you've outgrown something without admitting it, or you're between things and working out what comes next. You don't need a job for this one. Caring for someone, studying, building something, or looking for the next thing all count.
If you didn't have to justify your time to anyone, what would you spend it on? And why don't you?
What you may start to see: That “what is my purpose?” is sometimes really a question about worth, rest or fit.
You're harder on yourself than you'd ever be on a friend. Praise slides off and criticism sticks, you feel you have to earn your place, or you've achieved plenty and still feel behind.
What's the most unkind thing you say to yourself? If your closest friend said it about themselves, what would you say?
What you may start to see: Whose voice the harsh one really is, and how often it runs your day.
The people around you matter, and something in how you connect feels off. You're the one who always reaches out first, a friendship has quietly faded, or you're surrounded by people and still feel unseen.
If obligation disappeared, who would you actually choose to spend your time with? What does that tell you?
What you may start to see: What you want from people, and the needs you haven't said out loud.
You say yes and mean no. You're the reliable one and you quietly resent it, you apologize for needing anything, or you only notice you've given too much once you're already drained.
If the need for approval disappeared for a week, what would you stop doing? What would you start?
What you may start to see: Where yes costs you most, and what you're protecting when you say it.
You react in ways that surprise you afterwards. You go numb instead of upset, the same feeling keeps showing up in different situations, or people tell you you're calm while it's loud inside.
What feeling quietly drives your behavior in a way you only see in hindsight?
What you may start to see: The feeling underneath, and the situations that keep setting it off.
You already know the answer and keep asking anyway. You collect opinions until the decision makes itself, talk yourself out of instincts that turn out right, or need someone to agree before you move.
If the need to be right in other people's eyes disappeared for a week, what would you do differently?
What you may start to see: How often you already knew, and what talking yourself out of it protects.
Your mind never quite switches off. You sleep and wake up tired, rest only feels allowed once everything is done, or you notice the tension in your shoulders long before the feeling underneath it.
What thought loops most in your head? If you could set it down for a day, what would that feel like?
What you may start to see: What your body has been saying that your mind hasn't.
You're between versions of yourself, after a move, a loss, or a role ending or beginning. Who you were no longer fits, who you're becoming hasn't arrived, and you want company in the in-between.
What does staying stuck cost you, in the quiet daily way?
What you may start to see: What you're ready to let go of, and what's asking to come next.
After your first ten days, you can reply CHANGE and your questions will point at a different focus area, and plenty of people do. Everything you've written comes with you, and nothing resets.
If none of these feel right on day one, that's fine. Your first few days are the same for everyone, and the question of focus only comes up once you've settled in.
Start with three days free. One question a day, and a reply written to what you said.